Unconditional Responsibility http://www.unconditionalresponsibility.com Sun, 16 Dec 2018 22:38:15 +0000 en-US hourly 1 /wp-content/uploads/2017/08/cropped-site-icon-32x32.png Unconditional Responsibility http://www.unconditionalresponsibility.com 32 32 Upcoming Seminar! /upcoming-seminar/ Wed, 13 Sep 2017 01:13:07 +0000 /?p=866 UCR’s basic philosophy is whatever you have in your life you have attracted by the person you have become. This frees us from the tyranny of outside forces to understand that we are cause. It is our EGO that keeps us operating on the level of effects. Those who choose to live in the “Blue Ocean”  – the open limitless seas of life –  understand that we are cause.

Embodying the philosophy of UCR opens the door to that new life. Your “AHA!” moment arrives. I am cause, I am cause, I am cause, finds its residence in your subconscious mind. Once there, you have access to the universal mind that guides and directs, to show you your way to live the life you love.

Join us on October 6th, 2017 in Park City, Utah for our seminar on Unconditional Responsibility and Abundance.  By attending you will re-infuse your subconscious with thoughts of abundance. It takes tremendous discipline to use your conscious mind (your choice) to sink into your subconscious mind. Once there you will automatically repel scarcity thought and attract abundant thoughts – come and learn more!  I guarantee the time and money you invest will be worth it. See you soon!

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Take Daily Action: Throw Away Your To-Do List and Opt for Something Better /take-daily-action-throw-away-list-opt-something-better/ Fri, 22 Aug 2014 17:45:01 +0000 /?p=533 “Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” – Dalai Lama

If we want to ensure our futures, we must take daily action toward our goals. So, how do you take daily action? Most would naturally choose to create a check list or a to-do list. It turns out these aren’t as useful as you might think.

You’ve got your to-do list and you tell yourself you’re ready to get the day started – yet when you look at your list, you start to feel the tasks are too great. Suddenly, that list you made 5 minutes earlier doesn’t seem as simple as you remember it being.

To do lists are essentially, poorly planned wish lists. You’ve created something that has no limits on time, is a scrambled mess of ill-proportioned importance, and keeps you from a regular schedule. The easiest way to keep yourself on track during the week, is to sit down at the beginning of each week and create a schedule of what needs to be done. A schedule can help you better manage your time, plan your days, and finish your work when you want to be finished.

Think about when you’re in school: you’re given a syllabus on the first day of every class. No matter what class it is, the teacher will always talk about the things he or she has planned for you to do by the end of the class. Your stomach begins to sink as the reality of all you need to do washes over you – it’s always concerning.

But then, something happens: at the end of the syllabus there is this coherent schedule of when everything is due and you begin forming an understanding of where it all fits – then you begin creating your own schedule in your mind. Somehow, what was concerning at first seems a lot easier now. Creating daily action steps keeps us from freezing up and scrambling to figure out what we need to get done that day. When we have a plan and a schedule, it becomes as simple as sticking to that plan without having to wonder what comes next.

Alan Fine, author and motivational speaker, writes, in his book You Already Know How to Be Great: A Simple Way to Remove Interference and Unlock Your Greatest Potential, of how he was able to overcome his inability to move forward: he speaks of a mountain climbing trip and a fear of heights. When he began climbing the actual mountain, and it got steeper and steeper, he started freezing up out of a fear of his own life and the lives of those he was attached to. On either side of him was an enormous drop that one wrong move could have easily sent himself and those he was connected with, hurtling toward their deaths.

That’s enough to stop anyone cold in their tracks, though he was able to willfully overcome it by focusing on the smaller things: he focused on the footprint of the person in front of him and kept his eyes from wandering anywhere else, knowing that at some point he’d reach the top if he could only keep doing that.

This situation, as Fine points out in his book, is certainly a good metaphor for business. Though you rarely have to worry about business partners dying, building a business is very much like climbing a mountain and it helps to put all of your effort into daily action steps you’ve created rather than feeling the task is too great in its entirety.

Every week, or before you go to bed the night before, create a daily schedule with 5 things you want to get done. It doesn’t have to be rigid, as life is constantly throwing us curveballs, just make it and complete it. Focus on the smaller things right in front of you that will lead up to the larger ones.

A common analogy of life is that it is like a puzzle: you have the bigger picture in the back of your mind, but your focus is on how all of the little pieces fit together.

Are you willing to figure out how to put your pieces together?

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 “Everything we do, every thought we’ve ever had, is produced by the human brain. But exactly how it operates remains one of the biggest unsolved mysteries, and it seems the more we probe its secrets, the more surprises we find.”   – Neil deGrasse Tyson

How often have you been told, or even thought to yourself, “Have fun while you’re young and get serious when you get older”? This has always made sense. Of course, kids act stupid and are going to make bad decisions, but it’ll all work out as long as they mature by the time it really matters. Turns out this advice might not be as practical as we had all originally thought.

I recently came across a brief Q&A with the author of the newly released book Change Your Brain, Change Your Life: Before 25, Jesse Payne. His book is about the development of the brain and details how most people don’t understand that the brain continues to develop until around 25 years of age. For me, a 24-year-old, this was a terrifying piece of information to read. I had heard it briefly before and didn’t put much stock in it because it wasn’t the widely held belief at the time. Though it probably still isn’t widely known, that doesn’t make it any less true.

Now that I am on the precipice of hitting that quarter-of-a-century mark, I look back and wish that I had fostered my brain a little more and took the time to understand exactly how it was developing. Interestingly, the brain develops from back to front – your prefrontal cortex being the last area of the brain to fully develop in your mid-twenties.

The prefrontal cortex is the area of the brain that controls “judgment, forethought, impulse control, learning from mistakes, focus, attention,” and plenty of other things. I think it’s safe to say those are all pretty important aspects on what makes us who we are and how we continue to grow as people. This doesn’t mean that if you’re over the age of 25, give up – of course not. We are always growing and changing, and so are our brains.

Master your thoughts and discipline yourself to resist or moderate things that may be harmful to your mind – your brain is in constant need of care and growth, don’t let it down!

Please, share your thoughts on this subject.

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The Power of Thought /power-thought/ Mon, 11 Aug 2014 17:36:20 +0000 /?p=515 Thinker

“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.” – Buddha

It’s been a while since we’ve talked about the power of thought, so naturally I thought I’d remind you just how powerful your thoughts are!

Your brain is capable of more than just changing the way you think about things and the way your brain works, it is also able to change in structure and shape. Scientists have found that doing an action and imagining that same action “require the same motor and sensory programs in the brain.” In another wonderful video from Asap Science, we learn just how powerful thoughts can be. For example, your Primary Visual Cortex lights up the same way regardless of whether you are looking at a letter on a screen or imagining it in your mind. The same thing occurs when you think about writing your name with your dominant hand: imagining writing your name with your dominant hand will take you just as long as if you actually write your name. The same goes for imagining writing your name with your non-dominant hand. The reason this is the case is because action and imagination “are integrated and engage the same neural pathways” and “practicing on actually influences the other.”

The Study

A study conducted had two groups practice the piano for two hours a day. One group was to practice traditionally (i.e. by actually playing) and the other group was only allowed to practice with their minds – sitting in front of it, they could only imagine practicing. “The exact same physical changes took place in the motor cortex of both groups.”

After three days of this the mental practice group was allowed to begin playing physically and was on the same level of accuracy as the physical practice group. At five days, however, the mental practice group’s abilities began to wane in comparison to the physical practice group; though, given the opportunity to physically practice, they were able to quickly catch up.

Another study had one group of individuals physically take part in finger exercises for a week, which increased their finger muscle size by thirty percent; while the second group – those who were only allowed to imagine the exercises – increased their muscle size by twenty-two percent!

“This is because the neurons responsible for muscle instruction were still being used and strengthened.”   Albert Asks a Question

What are you spending your time thinking about? With this knowledge, you now know it’s possible to physically change your brain and your abilities merely by thinking about them.

Spend more time taking daily action to think more about what you’d like to improve in your life and how you’d like to improve it. The discipline it requires to change the brain is a lot, but the outcome is worth it and much more fantastic than you may have imagined before.

Please, share your stories on how thinking a different way has changed your life.

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Productivity /productivity/ Fri, 08 Aug 2014 14:06:43 +0000 /?p=510 productivity

“Amateurs sit and wait for inspiration, the rest of us just get up and go to work.”  – Stephen King

As much as I’d love to believe that willpower is all I need to drive myself to do something, this isn’t really the case. We’re always told that we need more willpower and if we just put our minds to something we’ll be able to accomplish it. This romantic notion is certainly inspiring, but it’s also very misleading.

Several studies suggest that willpower is an exhaustible resource that has a limit and requires recharging – referred to as ego depletion. We can tell ourselves all day that we will do something and then never do it. I know this has happened to me on many occasions. In fact, it has been proven that genetics play a large role in your ability to be productive. There are some of us who are more prone to being lazy and some of us who are unable to sit still.

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Hope is not lost, however! Just because you are genetically prone to be lazier doesn’t mean that you are doomed to remain lazy for the rest of your days.

When you envision a task you want to complete, we tend to imagine the entirety of the task and then get overwhelmed, staring off into space, swimming in anxiety – but, our brains have an amazing defense mechanism against this inherent behavior: referred to as the Zeigarnik Effect, when we simply begin a task our minds are compelled to finish that task. If we don’t finish a task, this effect takes hold and we feel a constant nagging because of the task we’ve left undone, leaving us obligated to complete it.

Time Management 

Sometimes starting a task is only part of the solution. Time management also plays a crucial role in helping us complete something. Those who study music, more often than not, rely on habit and discipline rather than willpower. Instead of playing all day every day, they have intense practice sessions with breaks in between, so that they don’t wear themselves out and keep themselves to a schedule.

Keeping a schedule goes a long way. Writing out what needs to be done the next day before you go to bed can help you solidify your tasks in your mind. Rather than collecting all of your thoughts in the morning and constantly guessing at what should be done next, using the night before to collect yourself will allow you to strategically plan the following day.

It all comes back to discipline and daily action – it is impossible to have one without the other. And these are only two of the seven principles required to live your life of happiness, health, and success.

Please share some of your tricks and actions that help you be more productive!

 

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How Important is Sleep? /important-sleep/ Mon, 04 Aug 2014 14:01:59 +0000 /?p=503 “Sleep is the best meditation.”  – Dalai Lama

A good night’s sleep is very important. I’m sure you hear this all the time. Another one we hear all the time is “you need 8 hours of sleep every night.” We hear these vague statements all the time without really knowing their significance or what they really mean.

A video from AsapScience helps shed some light on the mysteries of sleep. The video starts by stating “the very function of sleep is still debated by scientists,” meaning that while it is pretty much understood you’re going to have a bad day with a lack of sleep, the exact reasons for needing sleep and its affects are still up for debate. It is known, however, that we do need sleep “to function efficiently and productively.”

In total, we sleep away around 24 years of our lives. That’s a frightening number. But before you swear off sleep in a misguided attempt to give yourself more time, understand exactly what a lack of sleep means: A recent study separated a group of people into 3 test groups over a 2 week period. The first group slept for 4 hours a night, the second group slept for 6 hours a night, and the third group got 8 hours of sleep a night. After two weeks, the group with 8 hours of sleep “exhibited few attention lapses or cognitive issues.” This probably comes as no surprise.

So, now you’re wondering how bad, really, could be getting only 6 hours of sleep a night be? According to the study, the individuals who only got 6 hours of sleep displayed the same cognitive deterioration as someone with a .1% blood alcohol content. Meaning, the people who only go 2 weeks with 6 hours of sleep are walking around essentially legally drunk. The individuals who slept 4 hours a night would sometimes fall asleep during their cognitive tests.

Leveling Off

You might now be thinking that certainly, this will level off at some point as your brain will get used to sleeping for this amount of time. Turns out this isn’t the case. Scientists have found that your brain function steadily decreases over the course of time as you continue to get a lack of sleep. They refer to this phenomenon as “sleep debt.”

We can recover from sleep debt if we give ourselves a few good nights’ sleep; however, the longer you go with sleep deprivation (i.e. less than 7-8 hours of sleep) the more good night’s sleep in a row you’ll need. So, if you go weeks and a month without getting a proper night’s sleep, you’ll need weeks and months to recover.

When it gets to months or years scientists are unsure as to whether or not the brain can ever be recovered entirely. Eventually, our feeling of tiredness will level off. We tell ourselves that we feel fine and that we don’t need any more sleep, but in reality our brain is still deteriorating, we’ve just become used to that deterioration and become less aware of it.

How Long Should I Sleep?

According to studies, we need a consistent 7-8 hours of sleep a night. Any less than that and we run a much higher risk of heart disease, obesity, diabetes, and a 12 percent higher risk of death – this is on top of the cognitive issues.

The reverse to all of this is those who sleep too much (more than 8 hours) also have a higher risk of heart disease, obesity, diabetes, and a 30 percent higher risk of death – though, the silver lining is you don’t cognitively deteriorate.

There are those who have genetic mutations allowing them to sleep less than the average person without the cognitive deterioration and other risks, those these individuals are few and far between. So, before you take the risk in wondering whether you are one of these people, consider the consequences if you aren’t.

With this knowledge comes the responsibility of a good night’s sleep. It doesn’t seem so important to stay up and watch that T.V. show or stay out late when you consider what you’re doing to your mind and body. We need to take care of ourselves so we can make the world a better place. Regulating your sleep will help you discipline yourself as well as help your health and happiness! Be unconditionally responsible by keeping yourself and your health in check.

Please, share a method you use to help get to sleep or how getting to bed earlier has helped you increase your productivity!

 

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Going to Work: An Interpretation of the Daily Struggle Part III /going-work-interpretation-daily-struggle-part-iii/ Fri, 01 Aug 2014 19:59:40 +0000 /?p=497 Carpe Diem – Seize the Day

Over the past two posts we’ve taken a look at two different mindsets when it comes to getting your day started: the first focused on the individual who was irritated by her morning routine and did everything last minute, while the second focused on the individual who had her morning routine planned and who was able to squeeze every ounce of productivity out of it.

There are a lot of small things in life that we don’t put very much stock in. Be it our morning routine, time for ourselves, or taking the time to build up an understanding of something – it just feels like we’re constantly worried about the big stuff without realizing that the big stuff is a culmination of the little stuff.

A good example of how the lesser leads to the larger can be found in music. When you begin learning an instrument or how to read music, you don’t immediately start with complex works – you start by plucking a string, or finding middle C, or blowing through a horn; you start by learning what quarter notes are and how many beats they get, or what a measure looks like, or what a treble clef is. You start out with the basics because music is complicated and you need a foundation with which to build on.

The same goes for life. If we don’t have a solid foundation, if we haven’t learned the basics, how can we hope to tackle the more intricate aspects of life? You can even (and should) look at it on a much smaller scale in that your daily life is affected by the foundation that you’ve created with your mornings: if you don’t get out of bed until noon, you’re going to see that effect on the rest of your day; if you wake up irritated or late, the rest of your day will reflect that mentality.

But if you start every day off well – if you’re happy to be awake, yearning to learn, spend the time to take care of your body, and prep yourself for the rest of the day – there isn’t much you can’t accomplish. Keep life simple by building off of a foundation you’ve created. It works with the understanding and application of most everything else – why wouldn’t it work for your life as well?

Feel free to share your foundations for everyday life. I always appreciate hearing them and so do many others.

 

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Going to Work: An Interpretation of the Daily Struggle Part II /going-work-interpretation-daily-struggle-part-ii/ Mon, 28 Jul 2014 14:46:35 +0000 /?p=491 “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”  – Steve Jobs

We’ve taken a look at what a morning looks like for someone who is rising only because they have to – now let’s look at a morning for someone who is excited to wake up and uses her time wisely and productively: Your alarm goes off. Maybe you’re waking with the alarm or maybe you’re already awake because you’ve trained yourself to wake up this early. And it is early. But that’s ok, you go to bed early enough each night that you’re able to get between 7 and 9 hours of sleep, so waking up this early isn’t so bad.

You look over at your clock – it says 4:30 am. You get up 3 hours earlier than when you have to leave for work. Not 3 hours before the time you have to be there, but 3 hours before your actual commute to work, so you have enough time.

Whenever you mention how early you get up to a friend it’s always the same surprised reaction, “What do you do with all that time!?” You swing your legs over the bed, with a slight grin, shaking off any remaining sleepiness. You put on your running clothes. You walk to your kitchen and drink some water – after all, you have to remain hydrated, right? You begin making your coffee and set out all that you need for your healthy breakfast. After everything is complete in the kitchen you’re ready to begin your morning workout.

 As you run you can see the sun rising with you. The quiet of morning almost always surprise you, yet it doesn’t feel lonely – you appreciate the silence as it gives you time to think and reflect. A word comes to mind: serene. You have several good ideas and breakthroughs on your run.

Upon returning, your coffee is ready. You make it just how you like and you make yourself breakfast. Without feeling rushed you are able to finish both coffee and breakfast and sit down to better yourself.

You pick up an earmarked book on how to increase willpower and quietly read for the next hour. Down to your last hour before work, you get ready and mentally prepare yourself for the day. You understand what you will be doing today and what will be expected of you. You’re ready to tackle this day head on. Though your commute for work is long, you’ve left enough time that you aren’t stressed about being to work on time. You spend the time in your car either learning from an audiobook, listening to your favorite music, or silently centering yourself.

Work is a breeze. You work hard and passionately, understanding that everything you complete is bettering you. When you return home, you have enough time to relax and unwind before going to bed and starting another tranquil day.

Doesn’t this sound so much more fulfilling than being irritated and rushed every morning?

Please, share your morning routine and what you do to help the day go by smoothly. You might help someone out.

 

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Going to Work: An Interpretation of the Daily Struggle Part I /going-work-interpretation-daily-struggle-part/ Fri, 25 Jul 2014 19:26:32 +0000 /?p=486 Ugh

“Life isn’t about getting and having, it’s about giving and being.”  – Kevin Kruse

A lot of disappointment, dread, and irritation comes with getting out of bed in the early morning for most of us.

Your eyes open with the sound of your screeching alarm. Your first thought isn’t usually a happy one, then you slide your feet until they lazily drop off the side of the bed. After you’ve shuffled your way to the bathroom, you blindly swipe at the wall until you find the light switch – the sudden shift from dark to light has you recoil as if you are a vampire, fearful of the sun.

You attempt a balancing act on top of legs that promise to fall out from under you while you wait for the cold water to warm. Stepping into the shower is both a blessing and a curse as the warm water feels perfect, yet recalls to mind the warm blanket that waits for you back in bed. Your shower is a lazy attempt at lathering while one hand is pressed firmly against the walling, ensuring that you don’t crumble under the weight of your desire to continue sleeping.

Stepping out of the shower you dry off, wrap your towel and begin sluggishly applying your toothpaste to a toothbrush, and a toothbrush to teeth – all the while wondering if you can’t come up with some reason to sleep just a little longer. You spend time wondering why it is you had to watch that documentary on fish oil, keeping you up later than you would have liked.

You put your clothes on, comb your hair, and walk out to the kitchen. Do you have time to make coffee? You certainly don’t have time to make breakfast…Starbucks it is!

You head inside because the drive-thru line is always too long. Oh, how you’ve waited for this. How you need this coffee. Your thoughts jubilant from the idea of a piping hot cup of joe – this will turn your morning around!

You’ve made it to the counter and can only communicate your order through a series of grunts and moans. Hand motions may be necessary.Upon receiving your large coffee you quickly take a sip, forgoing the necessary steps required to ensure your coffee isn’t too hot – it burns your tongue and throat. You wonder if some celestial being or another has it out for you. Now, fear has set in. You begin to wonder if you’ll be able to make it to work on time as there’s an hour commute and always a backup on your route. You sit in traffic and are unable to enjoy your coffee due to the anxiety of not knowing whether you’ll make it to work on time. Irritated, you curse at whoever is causing this.

You’ve made it to work with no time to spare. Running through the door at 9:05, you have no time for coworker greetings or upholding appearances. You’ve made it to your desk and count the hours, then the minutes, then the seconds until you can make another congested commute home. Tomorrow you get to start the whole process over again.

 Cannot Sleep

Doesn’t this sound miserable? Doing this over and over again until you retire?

Read my next post to find out what you might do to prevent this kind of morning and please share your stories and strategies on how to get the most out of you mornings.

 

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Take Care of Yourself /take-care/ Mon, 21 Jul 2014 19:59:59 +0000 /?p=480

“When the well’s dry, we know the worth of water.”  – Benjamin Franklin

It’s very easy to feel overwhelmed in life. We have so many responsibilities and so much is expected of us that it is easy for us to forget to take time to take care of ourselves. We sacrifice so much time for others with so little concern for our own well-being that we end up hurting ourselves and even others because of this. When we burn ourselves out, we become significantly less able to give our ‘all’ to the things in life that require our best.

Importance of Sleep

How can you be expected to help your friends and family to the best of your ability if you have weeks’ worth of work piled up; and how can you be expected to finish all of this work, while giving it your maximum effort, if you haven’t slept in three days?

Our efforts are in direct correlation with our mental and physical states. Meaning that ‘working hard’ is a relative term. I may feel like I’m working my hardest on the paper I stayed up the several days writing, but just because I feel like I’m working hard doesn’t mean I’m able to give it my best after missing several nights’ sleep. More specifically, a lack of sleep will lead to a reduction in your attention and concentration, reaction time, decision-making ability, and your memory.

Stress

 Stress

A lack of sleep isn’t the only thing that affects your ability to perform and serve others – stress is another enormous factor of our mental and physical health. We tend to put so many things on our plates at one time that we become overwhelmed and have trouble concentrating on one thing knowing that there are ten others things we have to do.

Stress can affect a number of our faculties, such as: headaches, muscle tension or pain, fatigue, and even sleep deprivation. It affects our moods and behaviors anxiousness, restlessness, irritability, outbursts, and social withdrawal. So, how can we be expected to operate at optimal levels if we are in anyone of these states? The answer is of course we wouldn’t do very well – certainly not the best that we can do.

I know that when I’m very stressed about something the last thing I want to do is collect more problems to pile on top of the ones I already have. This isn’t being insensitive, either – it’s being realistic. I understand that when I’m stressed out I have trouble focusing on anything more than the problem I’m facing. While in this condition it’s difficult, if not impossible, to give others my best and the time and attention they deserve.

This is not a call to ignore others’ problems or to be uncouth when someone presents you with their difficulties. It is merely an admission that we are not ourselves and not at our best when we haven’t helped ourselves first.

Next time you find yourself faced with the decision to help another before you’ve helped yourself, weigh your options and ask yourself: can I really give this person my all when I, myself, am not at my all?

 

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